ssica are hopeful, romantic, and looking for love. As luck would have it, both women find themselves swept away by the men of their dreams. But as their relationships evolve, patterns and behaviors emerge that reveal the cruelty of both men, who repeatedly force Laura and Jessica through abusive cycles of idealization, devaluation, and discard. These patterns of abuse are characteristic of narcissistic personality disorder and are a methodical attempt by those with NPD to gain full control of their unsuspecting victims and feed their insatiable need for power and dominance.

The road to safety, freedom, and happiness is paved by education, knowledge, and support. The format of If You Knew Would You Say I Do is intended to allow readers to invest in and relate to Laura and Jessica and thereby learn how to understand and escape similar abusive relationships with narcissists.